Spiritually Hot

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I was at a meeting recently and someone shared about his spirituality and how we should treat that like our bodies; meaning that when we are at the gym, or running or doing yoga we all want to be smoking hot for the summer and have rockin’ bodies! We want to look our best, as well, as wanting to be connected in our spiritual life.  He made a joke saying that no one goes around and says, “Wow – look at him he’s so spiritually hot”.  When you see someone that does have that spiritual glow and aura, what does that look like?  We often take folks for face value and judge before we even say Hi to them.  I am guilty of that myself and this is one of those defects that I am working on. But it begs the question what do we do for our soul and our spirituality? What does that look like? How do you know if others are spiritually hot?

I trust people fairly easily because I want to believe that most people are love and light and honest and true.  However, not everyone is well; it’s not called “Well People’s Anonymous”.  So I listen to my inner voice and I trust my gut. I have numerous friends, in and outside, of AA and I love those relationships and I am grateful for each of them.  However, do I really know them and are they spiritually well? I’d say there are about 8 women in my life that I really know and trust 100%, and that alone is a gift.  I can sense when someone is on a spiritual path in the way they treat themselves and the way they treat others.  I get to see them being of service and doing the kind deed that no one else can see, I am witness to the fact of them helping a stranger or a newcomer and when I look in their eyes I know they are a form of god’s love and creation; they are inherently good.  What a gift.  So this makes me ask myself, am I spiritually hot? I do good deeds, I am of service, I pray, I meditate, and I am loving and kind to others – when I want to be.  I’m not perfect or even close to it and some days are good days and some are spiritual growth days.  I get to wake up each day and say Ok God, you’ve got this and I’m going to give you my day.  This usually lasts for an hour or so until I try to manage something that I feel I have control over, only to find myself befuddled and annoyed.  Happily I can turn that over and keep forging on and try to be that spiritually hot chick I know I can be.  Being spiritually hot for me is an attitude, it’s part of my daily life in treating myself with love and kindness and then shining that force onto someone else; which happens about 50% of the time.  The rest of the time is me working on myself and learning from my mistakes.  Because in that learning is where my true growth comes in.  There is a saying “There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in”.  I’m glad that today I know I’m a little cracked and the light comes in so much easier now than it used to and I get to strive to be spiritually hot.


  1. I loved that Nancy! “Spiritual Growth Day’s!!” is that not the truth or what I think I have like 27 of those the Lord scheduled for me this month, 🙂 By the way you are off the Spiritual Hottness scale my friend, thank you for your friendship, your support, and for all the amazing work you do here. Your a role model Nancy Carr especially for those of us still wet behind the ears here trying to hang with all you Spiritual Superstars!! Love you, my friend be blessed!

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