I’m so excited to share Kelly’s interview today. Kelly is someone I met when I was just coming into the sober blogging world with my Memoir and my blog back in early 2015. Turns out we lived very close to each other in Florida, and found out that we both grew up in the same area outside of Philadelphia. We are both avid Philadelphia Eagles fans, (don’t hold that against us) and have a lot of similarities to our stories. I was able to meet Kelly a couple years back at a meeting and we have been able to connect and see each other at various sober gatherings and events. I so value her voice in the recovery community, and appreciate her viewpoints on sobriety and how to live in a non-sober world. I know she is going to continue to be a leader and trailblazer for all of us in the recovery world and beyond.
I was addicted to alcohol, cocaine, and went through periods of time when I had other drugs of choice – ecstasy, weed etc. I was always looking for more of whatever was available. I haven’t really had any sort of addiction to food, although I do catch myself using it to comfort or numb every once in a while.
I am in recovery from all mood and mind altering substances.
I have always been close with my parents and sister, but there was always a barrier because they couldn’t depend on me when I was drinking and they were always worried about me. I tried to distance myself physically and figuratively.
Healthy, loving, and authentic! I am able to be around my family much more and they can depend on me.
My romantic relationships were always toxic. I picked men that weren’t emotionally available and I was not emotionally available myself. There was always yelling, fights, and arguments. A lot of emotional abuse. Not one relationship in my past ended normally. Most fights with any of my partners were about drinking and drugs.
I am recently married! I met my husband while I was still drinking and we started our relationship by partying together a lot. We fell into my same toxic relationship pattern and fought a lot, mostly about my drinking and drugging habits. Finally, after a trip with my friends for a bachelorette party, Fernando broke up with me because he was sick of my drinking. This caused me to reflect on my life and my drinking and I made the decision to get sober. It completely changed our relationship and we were able to work it out and we’ve been together ever since. We have a love I’ve never known before and the deep connection we’ve fostered would not be possible without my sobriety.
Much better. I work from home so my co-workers are far away, but I’ve worked in an office before now and I feel that I’m much better able to interact with people. My relationships with friends have changed. Some I’ve let go and others I’ve held on to and they’ve gotten much better. I’ve also made a lot of new friends because of my sobriety and that’s a blessing.
Yes, when I got sober I already had my two cats Rita and Ramona that we adopted in Cancun. They were there for me during my first weeks of sobriety when I felt very alone, sad, and emotional. I really think they could sense what I was going through. Today they’re still my favorite animals on this planet!!
I think my relationship with society is much better. When I was drinking I was a menace to society, ha-ha. I didn’t care about much except myself and getting what I wanted. Now I think about others, I have the awareness to give back, I pass on the message of sobriety, and I contribute to society rather than constantly take. I like to believe that being sober has allowed me to be a better friend, sister, aunt, daughter, and partner to everyone in my life and society as a whole.
Bio: Kelly Fitzgerald is a writer and a person in long-term recovery. Her goal is to help break the stigma of addiction by talking about her struggles openly. Her work has been published across the web including sites like Medium, The Huffington Post, BuzzFeed, SheKnows, The Fix, AfterParty Magazine, and Ravishly. She is best known for her blog The Adventures of a Sober Señorita where she writes about her experiences as a former party girl living in recovery. Her goal is to become a certified recovery coach. She is currently writing a memoir. You can find her at her blog, https://sobersenorita.com/